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Can I be ME?

Updated: May 2, 2023

Unless I am myself, I am nobody. -Virginia Woolf

A women searching for sense of self in her reflection

Do you sense some void in yourself? Feeling losing your identity or insecure about your persona, your uniqueness, and your personality? Because of social pressure and some challenging reasons, are you changing the way you perceive things?

Being a young person and finding a sense of identity and belonging is challenging. You strive to fit in society but still try to figure out who you are and what you want to be. Amidst this, you might have often struggled with the question, "Can I be me?"

Let's try to find the answer!

A person trapped behind a glass filter

Self-reflection and exploration help in a better understanding of oneself. We can follow these little steps to ensure a sense of belongingness:

Be aware of your values and beliefs

Being able to recognize what are the values and perspectives you believe in is crucial. The first step in finding your identity is understanding your values and beliefs. Take some time to reflect on what is important to you and what you stand for. It will help you know what you want to pursue and what you want to avoid.

Explore your interests

Try new things and explore different hobbies and activities. It's essential to discover what you enjoy doing and are passionate about. Pursuing interests makes you meet new people who share your interests and values and connect with them.

Building good relationships

Look for opportunities to connect with others who share your interests or have similar backgrounds or experiences. You can join clubs or groups at school, volunteer in your community, or attend events that interest you.

Embrace your unique qualities:

Everyone is unique, and that is something to be celebrated. Embrace your individuality, and don't be afraid to be yourself. It can be tempting to fit in with a particular crowd or conform to what others expect of you. But being true to yourself will help you feel more confident and secure in who you are.

Seek guidance from others

It's okay to ask for help and guidance from others. Talk to trusted adults, such as parents, teachers, or mentors, about your thoughts and feelings. They may be able to provide you with helpful advice or connect you with resources that can support you in your journey of self-discovery.

Having a sense of belongingness is a vital human need. So, don't feel shy about that. Finding a sense of identity and belonging is a process that takes time and self-reflection. It is essential to be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate this journey. Remember that everyone's journey is unique, and there is no right or wrong way to find your identity and sense of belonging.

And yes, "you can be yourself." Being true to oneself is crucial to lead a fulfilling and authentic life. It's important to recognize and embrace your strengths and weaknesses and to celebrate your unique qualities and individuality. Remember that you are the only person who can be the best version of yourself, so it's essential to focus on personal growth and improvement rather than trying to be someone else.

The answer is: "Yes, You can be yourself."

Do you face the "Can I be Me" dilemma often?

  • Yes, I need support. (Check our support group link below)

  • Yes, but I can work through.

  • No, but sometimes

  • No, not at all.

You can vote for more than one answer.


Silly Opera is making it possible to create spaces where you can share your stories, have deep conversations about mental health, and these are open to all but based on an invite-only policy to ensure safety. We have listening circles, open-mic sessions, open discussions, ask-a-counselor and so much more including activities to encourage self-expression. For more information write to us and to join our community submit this form. See you there!


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